Revisiting the stories of childhood with my children has been stirring. It recalls old dreams to mind, old feelings of security, old ways of imagining and knowing.
What would have happened if I’d been able to take horseback riding lessons when I was young? Would I have developed an eating disorder in high school if I’d been pursuing an interest actively, one that involved caring for another living thing? Would I have travelled the long academic, intellectual road I ended up on? Or would I have taken a different route, one where the abstract life of the mind is bound up with the full-bodied creaturely life? What if the passion for all things horseworthy had been a lifestyle rather than an imaginative escape?
I remember that for my seventh birthday, I got a horseback ride at a nearby campground. My brother was much more of a natural than I was. I remember looking at our shadows as the horses trotted up a hill. His showed a human body that was one with the horse. Mine showed a small shadow bouncing up and down on the horse’s back, perilously close to sailing off entirely.
The dreams stayed firmly in place and sent roots far down. I went on reading horse books. I envied two of my friends who took riding lessons, something we couldn’t afford. The closest I came myself was riding in circles in the back yard on a horse named Scooter who belonged to a neighbor. One day he got sick of it, and ran off over the hill to go home — with me still on his back. I remember that feeling of taking off into the unknown, realizing that I could do whatever gymnastics I wanted with the reins without changing the basic scenario: Scooter was driving, and I was along for the ride. Finally the owner, a good-natured high school student, caught up with us on foot, shaking her finger at the horse and saying, “Scooter, you die!”
Here’s Scooter, a 9-year-old writer2b on his back, with my brother steadying him:
It was a joy to give my daughter horseback riding lessons in the fall of last year. Doesn’t she look tiny?
But in writing this, I realize by now the sense of regret that hangs with me. I know I need to guard against trying to live my own lost dreams through her. I know I need to be careful not to ignore her other interests when we go to the library or make decisions about extra-curricular activities to invest in. I know she’s not me.
But it’s still true that though she’s her own person, she shares these dreams of my younger self. There’s something a little sad, but also a little healing, and a lot fun, to reread all these books together. I think they’re even a bit of a protective wall against forcing my unlived life on her; these stories represent other people’s visions, filters that strain out and redistribute any of my personal “stuff.” And each time I close a book, it reinforces that I chose a different path from these horse-people in the stories.
All of this to say that revisiting old books with my daughter means revisiting old dreams. We sit side-by-side on the couch, she with her self-in-formation, everything new, everything exciting; I sit there with a self largely formed, returning to something no longer new.
And yet it is new. The dreams as they’re encased in stories aren’t; the stories and their formulas have been around for a long time. But there next to me is a new thing, a little girl with a heart full of dreams, her own person, yet also a reminder of my own past self. How will her story turn out?
My daughter is the artist of both pictures in this post.








Now for some more oldies:
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We read Marguerite Henry’s
This story was rewarding for both my daughter and me. The text was entertaining, and though it challenged a 7-year-old in some spots through its historical references and dialect, these were easily surmounted without getting bogged down in explanation. (The reading level is aimed at middle school, I’d guess.) For anyone looking for either a historical story encompassing the period from 1790 - 1820, or one that builds appreciation for a unique breed, this novel delivers.